In 2015, my life lacked inspiration. I was overweight, unfit, and unmotivated, feeling like I had lost my identity. Hypnotherapy became a crucial part of my journey, initially sceptical, but desperately seeking help to lose weight. Not only did I shed the weight, but I also gained self-esteem, which was truly life-changing.
Realising my own value allowed me to respect myself, feel inspired, and understand that self-care is essential for my well-being.
Since then, my passion for health and vitality has been unwavering, even in a society that often encourages indulgence.
I've come to realise that I have choices. While I could easily have chocolate or a glass of wine, I ask myself if it's truly worth feeling overweight and sluggish. Personally, I don’t think it is, most of the time!
On those cold, rainy days when the idea of exercise seems unappealing, I face a choice.I can either revert to my old self, feeling worthless and bored, or I can push through and prioritise my health. By embracing the rain and cold, I return home feeling exhilarated, proud, and deserving of a well-earned relaxing bath and some time on the sofa.
Inspiring others to become the best versions of themselves has become my passion. Witnessing people transform, conquer their anxieties, and achieve their goals fills me with joy and fulfilment.
When you embrace and fully own your unique qualities, your true tribe will naturally find you. Celebrate your authenticity to attract those who appreciate your genuine self.
Go Against Society and The Norm
Sometimes, breaking free from societal norms is necessary to discover our true selves. Embrace the courage to go against the grain and embark on a journey of self-discovery.
Let's shed labels and celebrate our unique qualities, embracing the beauty of our individuality. It's time to redefine ourselves on our own terms.
Let me assist you in tapping into your intuition and honouring your authentic needs. Together, we'll navigate the path towards self-awareness and fulfilment and all that this brings.
With over 3,000 hours of experience, my approach differs from traditional counselling as I primarily work in a solution-focused manner.
While we can appreciate the past and its impact, we cannot change it. Instead, I help you to focus on creating the future you desire, leaving you calmer, more confident, and empowered to achieve your goals and dreams.
To achieve this, we utilise hypnotic trance to quiet the negative "chimp" part of your brain, allowing your logical, rational, and creative thinking to find solutions and create new neural pathways towards your preferred future.
Rest assured, hypnotic trance is a lovely, relaxing experience and I cannot make you do anything against your will. It's a wonderful process, and after just one session, clients often feel lighter, brighter, and more in control of their thoughts.
Over the course of our sessions, your stress and anxiety will diminish and you will notice yourself thinking and behaving in new ways that support your goals and help you become the best version of yourself.
Together, we will leave the past behind and focus on building the future you truly want. With each session, you will experience a shift in mindset and behaviours that align with your aspirations. It's a transformative journey that leads to a feeling of inner peace, greater self-empowerment and personal growth.
Nowadays, during my free time, you'll often find me cycling or enjoying the company of my mischievous 6-month-old grandson.
I am proud of my two children and the adults they have become, they are now independent and although as a parent I am always here, I think it is important that they live their own lives.
At 51, I prioritise health and fitness, understanding that good health cannot be bought. I take full responsibility for my well-being and aim to reduce future health risks.
I don't want to have any regrets about neglecting self-care if I ever end up in the hospital.
It is important to know your own worth and strength.
Sometimes we try to seek validation and encouragement from others, but it is important to remember that they can only offer what they believe they are capable of.
Your friends may unknowingly project their own limitations onto you and will often try and shield you from potential failure. People fear failure, not understanding it is merely a stepping stone towards success.
I believe the only failure is not trying in the first place.
It was Einstein who said “failure is success in progress”.
Where I believe my life changed for the better
In 2014, I found myself feeling uninspired by life. With teenage children, a job I no longer enjoyed, being overweight, and a lack of motivation, I felt like I had lost my sense of self. I was merely going through the motions of work and taking care of my family's needs.
I vividly recall a friend sharing her achievement of completing a half Ironman - a 1.2-mile swim, 56-mile bike ride, and a 13.2-mile run. I thought she was incredible and remember sharing the news with another friend in disbelief. What amazed me even more was that she was five stone overweight at the time!
Feeling sceptical but desperate for change, I sought help from a hypnotherapist to lose weight. I knew what I needed to do but struggled to put it into practice.
Surprisingly, after just one session, I started eating in a way that felt natural and aligned with my goals. Slowly but surely, I went from nearly 12 stone to 9½ stone in about nine months. I got more from Hypnotherapy though, I felt calmer and more able than I had done for years.
I accepted a challenge from colleagues to train for a 6-mile Wolfe Run, an obstacle race. At the time, I was overweight and couldn't run half a mile. However, after three months of training and the support of a friend who ran with me regularly, I completed the Wolf Run. It was a significant milestone that fueled my determination to never go back to the old me.
From then on, I actively sought out challenges to stay focused on my fitness journey. Every year, I set and accomplished new goals. After struggling with a knee injury, I turned to cycling. What started as short distances gradually grew, again with the help of my friend, from 20 miles to 30, then 50, and eventually a daunting leap to 100 miles.
One day, I stumbled upon a last-minute event on Facebook: cycling from London to Hamburg in four days, with each day covering 100 miles. Despite my worries about holding others back, I decided to join. To my surprise, I not only managed the challenge but also thoroughly enjoyed it, even being the only female participant.
Upon my return, an amazing cyclist friend suggested that I try to qualify for the UCI Gran Fondo championships in Australia, enticing me with the opportunity to wear the GB kit! Though it seemed like a far-fetched idea, I was willing to give it a shot. Even if I didn't qualify, it would still provide me with a reason to train and stay fit. To my astonishment, I did qualify!
I cycled for GB at the UCI Gran Fondo in Australia and two weeks later completed my first half Ironman distance triathlon.
I cycled London to Paris.
Once you realise you are capable of achieving things, you become brave and courageous and this comes into all areas of your life.
Unhappy with my job and realising the difference that Hypnotherapy has made to my life, I trained to be a Hypnotherapist, left my job and started my own hypnotherapy business.
I ran 50 miles
I completed a Full Ironman (2.4mile swim, 112 miles bike, and 26.2miles run).
2020 was going to be 3 Marathons over 3 days along the Jurassic Coast, I trained hard but a week before the event a COVID lockdown got in the way, I intended to do it the following year, but in truth I just didn't have the desire to do all that run training again, and that is okay.
I had a quiet year.
Completed another Ironman distance triathlon.
Competed in Ibiza at the GB age group World Championship for Long Distance Triathlon.
Our family dynamics shifted with the arrival of my first grandchild. At just 6 months old, he has brought immense joy into our lives. Being a grandparent truly is an incredible experience, and I am fortunate to have the opportunity to care for him a couple of days a week.
Due to time limitations, I have reassessed the need for quite such big goals, but I recognise the significance of maintaining my fitness for my health. Therefore, my goal is to incorporate regular rides into my routine without the pressure of an event, I therefore aim to cycle 100-150 miles each week. I do not want to lose the fitness that has taken a lot of work to build.
If people were to look at me now, they might assume that I have always been fit and that staying active comes easily to me.
But in 2014, if you had told me I would complete an Ironman or compete with GB kit on, I would have laughed in disbelief.
I truly believe that if I can achieve my goals, so can you.
Whether it's in fitness or any other aspect of life, find what inspires you. Take that first step, followed by the next, and witness the incredible transformations that can unfold.
Ask yourself, what would your future self want you to have started today?
Envision the possibilities if you took that first step, then the next step and remained consistent.
Just imagine where you could be in a year, two years, or even five years from now.
Embrace the potential of your journey and the incredible growth that awaits you.